Yes, the occasional quickie may be a delicious indulgence and pretty hot and heavy for both partners, but if every encounter is a quickie, you may be disappointing your lady in the bedroom. Foreplay is more than just a word related to the small things you do before you go at it and it is a lot more than the few minutes you put in to arousing her before play time. For most men, arousal is fairly easy to achieve and men tend to be ready to go with just the smallest amount of encouragement. This does not ring true for most women though. Many men have no idea of how to get her juices flowing before the actual sex act takes place. While some men are rather selfish and mainly concerned with their own pleasure, there are many men out there that would love to get their ladies as aroused as they are. There are a few hints and tips you can try so that she gets more out of it too.
While there is the obvious playing, caressing, touching and exploring that is important to get your partner to the point of orgasm, there are a few easy and different things you can try to start getting her going before the actual act and even during. Here are a few suggestions to making things extra hot and steamy in the bedroom and helping her to a stronger climax as well.
Try meditation : Yes, believe it or not, calming your body and mind together actually helps build a stronger bond between you, helps oxygenate your body, which will also help with the blood flow later on. Clear your mind of all your daily stresses together so you are better able to focus on each other.
Snuggle up : Most people enjoy a cuddle after sex but your intimacy can be heightened by some snuggling before you even get started. Snuggling up together also helps strengthen the bond between you as well as showing affection and releasing hormones that bring on good feelings. Cuddling also helps reduce stress and anxiety. Snuggling can be great foreplay and lead on to some making out and some steamy lovemaking later on.
Naughty texts : Send your partner sexts during the day. Start off the day with some erotic thoughts and don't be afraid to send some reminders during the day of how much you want her. This is a great way to get her thinking of you all day and the naughty things you may do later and the mind is the strongest sexual organ of them all.
Look at each other : Staring deep in to your partners eyes is another good way to get the juices flowing. Looking into each others eyes lets you both feel acknowledged and valued and is also proven to increase your attraction to each other. Improved attraction before sex? A simple and effective increase in foreplay.
Try some aromatherapy : Certain smells are a great turn on and will also increase arousal. Strong food smells such as cinnamon, popcorn and others can get you and her in the mood. Experiment with various scents and see what gets a response. You can also try some aromatherapy massage which is a perfect hands on approach, while perfecting the smells that make her knees go weak.
Try some flirting : Winking, non-sexual touches and other forms of flirting are another way to stimulate arousal in your partner. Don't be afraid to hold hands, touch her on the back or waist as you walk and even wink at her across the table. These little touches can be very stimulating and also remind her of what you have planned for later.
When you are getting down to the nitty gritty though, make sure you spend plenty time caressing and stroking her body and finding out what makes her go wild. Play with her nipples, kissing, nibbling and stroking to get her moist and ready. Some women are even capable of orgasming purely from someone playing with their breasts. Take the time to get to know her body and don't be afraid to use some lubrication. There are many more ways to get her off and make her feel good, but these few tips and hints are simple ways to get her aroused and ready to enjoy some fun times with you.